Let’s be real. There is a lot of pressure to look like we are perfect these days. With Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and every other social media platform out there, there is a need to seem perfect. We live in a world where we strive to protect a certain image that we’ve created that we believe is what people actually believe of us.
It's easy to hide behind edited photos, well-thought out posts, and the chance of being scrolled past. However, if you took snap shots of what you do the rest of the 99% of the time, what would people see? Would that fall in line with what you post or who you show people you are? Or if someone only knew you online, would they recognize you if they met you in real life?
What we do online, or in perfectly edited posts, isn’t who we truly are. It’s a shiny shell that we present ourselves to people. It's what we allow them to see. Your true character is revealed in the details underneath… in the seemingly trivial things. It’s what we say and what we do when we act from our core self that really matters… the things we do when we think no one is watching.
These details are often over looked. For me personally, most of my interactions with people are in the gym. While we see videos, photos and inspirational posts of people setting PR’s and crushing workouts, and even sometimes failing, they are always poised and self controlled. But let's be honest, when the camera isn’t on, how do they act?
We are all guilty of acting in certain ways that probably wouldn’t make us proud if we were to take a step back and look at ourselves. We may even see it when other people do it, but turn a blind eye when we act the same way. How many times do you notice when people start putting their weights away instead of cheering on others who are still finishing the workout? How about when someone misses a lift and throws a tantrum? Another example may be whether or not you scale to get the proper form or stimulus, rather than go RX and sacrifice those two elements which can lead to injury and/or overtraining. You never know who is watching and you never know who looks up to you. It’s important to always conduct yourself in such a way that is setting a good role model for someone (because whether you like to believe it or not, SOMEONE looks up to you and is watching!)
Nobody is perfect, and I will be the first to tell you that I often look back and realize I could have been better. It’s human nature to constantly strive to project a certain image in order to impress others and it takes a humble person to admit and work on flaws that they have. However, at the end of the day, you want everyone to see you for who you are, not who you post or pretend to be.
That being said, who are you when no one is looking? Who are you at your core? This isn’t meant to pass judgment or to chastise. It’s simply meant to bring awareness to how you present yourself in different situations, and then ask yourself, “How can I be better…?”